Don’t ignore the signs – enjoy your summer break

I meet a lot of people who tell me that they never take a holiday or they only take a couple of days out of their leave allowance.  Their logic is that they are too busy and it would be unproductive.  These are usually the same people who never take breaks during the working day, except pit stops or smoke breaks, and eat lunch either on the run or at their desks.  These are probably also the same people whose tempers get rattier as the day progresses and sleep beyond their home train stop.

Wrong, wrong, wrong!!!

No-one can cope at that pace for long.  Your body has a finite capacity for this level of overwork and it needs regular breaks and regular refreshment during the day.  Contrary to the belief of some, you are far more productive if you take breaks to chat with colleagues or go for a walk to get some fresh air.  We all need to be able to switch off regularly, so working 24/7 and 7/7 is seldom a good idea.  Granted, there are occasions when a particular piece of work needs a heads-down, must-complete approach but not all day and every day.  That is a recipe for disaster.

One of the skills we all need to cultivate is to listen to our bodies when they are telling us that something is wrong.  Not just that we are about to suffer a bout of ill-health, that is an out-of-the-ordinary occurrence.  I’m talking about those moments when you have to realise that you are either too stressed, too tired or too overworked to function normally.  And that can happen a lot at this time of year.

For a perfect example of that moment when you have to step back and realise that five minutes peace and quiet is going to be of immediate benefit, I offer what happened to me yesterday.  Honestly, I’m shocked at this because I’m usually quite good at self-monitoring.  I bet you’ve had that moment when you put a credit card in a machine at the till and, for a split second, you can’t remember the PIN number.  Fine. It happens. How about being utterly, totally, completely unable to remember the button press sequence for the TV remote control?  I kid you not! I have tried to calculate how many times I must do this virtually automatic action every week.  Quite a few I think, and we’ve had this TV for a couple of years so the total must be huge! So how overloaded must I be if I simply cannot remember how to do it and am standing in front of the TV with literally no muscle memory to assist me?  Talk about brain freeze – it was terrifying.  Ever been there? If so, I bet you don’t want to experience it again – I certainly don’t.  Time to down tools and enjoy a well-earned rest.

If you would like to chat about any productivity or prevarication issues you are having, then I’d love to help you so do give me a call. In the meantime, I hope you have a wonderful summer.

Hate to say I told you so!

I’ve been saying for a very long time how essential it is for non-profit organisations of all types to review their governance arrangements every two or three years.  People move on, organisations evolve and - heaven knows – the world around us is changing at a rate of knots.

Now the Charity Commission has published its new Charity Governance Code, which replaces the old Code of Good Governance and there is a defined expectation for larger charities to submit to external governance reviews every three years.  Stating that it was important for charities to focus on governance, it is ‘as much about behaviours as it is about mechanical practices’.

So there you have it.  We are all agreed that it is essential to take time out to ensure that your organisation is being run and supported as effectively as possible. 

If you need help with any elements of reviewing governance, strategy or operational issues in your organisation or you are not sure what to tackle first, just call me and we will get your show on the road together.

Investing in your staff is always a safe return, so if you have staff that are new in post, have only been with you for a few months or perhaps are returning from long term leave of some kind, it would be a great idea to send them on the SAMP training day.  The next one will be held on 29th September in London so you have time to book places.  This is a great route to fully engaged, capable staff, who can support your members.

“The training was absolutely brilliant! It was relevant, fresh, insightful and very engaging”.

“I wish I had something like this at the beginning of my career.”

How to get what you want without being difficult

My grandmother was a difficult woman. To be fair, I now realise that she was a product of her upbringing, they had very little and fought for everything they achieved. "Tell them what's what!" she would say and, inevitably, she would get her own way but being on the receiving end was not pleasant, and it didn't matter if you were family or not. Her opening salvos were always in broadcast mode and she most definitely was not listening - about anything. In fact, she was always right - no discussion. 

But that never worked for me. Even though I have to admit that, physically, I can see more resemblance to her as I get older and I seem to have inherited some of her dynamic characteristics, I will never allow myself or those around me to employ her tactics. The reasons are simple - they are horrible and they don't work.

In order to achieve what you want or need in any discussion or negotiation, you have to listen carefully.  More than that, you have to employ the greatest professionalism skill of them all, you need to engage your empathy button. You must try to see and understand what is motivating the other person in your discussion or negotiation.  Without doing that, you are likely to fail in achieving a mutually acceptable result. And that would be a pity.

If you would like to read a bit more about this important skill, then download my free workbook here.

If you think all your colleagues would benefit from practising these skills a little more then give me a call to arrange an in house workshop.

The Boy Scouts were right – Be Prepared! But you might get unexpected results.

Wow! I hate heatwaves and so, it seems, does the rail network.  Which meant that, early evening with the temperature at its maximum for the day, I found myself jammed into a train which had four carriages instead of the advertised 12.  You can imagine the scene. People were melting and miserable as we waited for the train to start moving and perhaps provide a bit of a breeze. 

Now the advice is to take a bottle of water with you on occasions like this and I did start the day with one in my bag but managed to leave it behind on the table at my final meeting.  So, foolishly, that source of rescue was gone.  But I was a little better prepared than that and had a fan with me so now was definitely the time for Plan B.  And that’s when it happened.

As soon as I started to wave my fan to create my personal haven, everyone around me started talking and asking out loud why they hadn’t thought to own/bring one.  And it spread, right through the carriage, with people laughing at their misery and wondering why we all put up with such traumas.  And then the gent opposite laughingly offered to buy my fan and the bidding reached £150, with me refusing – naturally!  No amount of money was going to part me from my fan and the solution it represented. 

Eventually, the train started moving and the breeze cooled things down to a more reasonable blood-boiling level.  Then I started wondering.  Fans have been used for centuries by both men and women in many cultures as a means of creating personal comfort (and communication if you read social history).  People do naturally use anything to hand – bits of paper, books, even rail tickets in desperation.  So why not own, carry and use a fan which is the most effective solution to the problem?  Answers on a postcard please – not really!

How to deal with badly behaved colleagues

This week I heard about an issue at work that’s not that uncommon, where someone’s ego has overtaken their good sense and is causing problems for everyone around them.  We all have bad days at work.  Something happens unexpectedly to ruin the day or expectations are not met or something demotivating or denigrating is said.  I’ve never understood why some people feel it’s OK to make life difficult or unpleasant for other people.

There have been two occasions when I have been shattered by the unexpected at work – once I didn’t see it coming at all, once when I should have seen it coming but didn’t.

The first was about some research I completed for the Department of Health which my line manager then passed off as her own work, removing my name completely from the published document.  The second was when I was pushed over a glass cliff (like a glass ceiling only more painful!) in a way designed to cause the maximum stress and insult to me and to my role in the organisation.

These were two very dissimilar incidents – or were they?  With hindsight – such a wonderful viewing lens – they had one thing in common and that was a total lack of professionalism from those involved in creating the trauma.

There are, of course, occasions when standing your ground and maintaining the moral high ground is the right course of action.  However, there are also times when there is no good reason to stay to be a party to their dishonesty and machinations. What would you have done in these cases?  You can read what I did at the foot of this article.

These sorts of problems happen in all types of organisations and all sectors of the economy so you have probably witnessed these kinds of incidents.  Unfortunately, a fair number of us will have been on the receiving end.  So, what can we do to make sure that we can rise above the abuse or provocation and behave in a mature and measured way? 

Well, I’ve said it here before and I will say it again.  Excellence in all things, professionalism as a way of life. 

Take a look at The Golden Rules and feel free to download them.  Put them up over your desk or hand them to someone who looks to be on the brink of losing control.

If you would like more tools and tips to develop your workplace skills and self-protection then How to Spot a Dinosaur will be useful.  You might even choose to share it with your colleagues!

Or give me a call if you have an issue you would like to discuss in detail. Our first chat is free of charge.

What was my response?

After much heart searching and acknowledging to myself how furious I was at such treatment, I retained my dignity by walking away from the insult.  In both cases I knew that I had completed my work, had acted with excellence and professionalism as I normally did, so it was their loss not mine. 

The aftermath was even more interesting!

In the first case, I ensured that I had an exit interview so that my views were conveyed to management.  It transpired that they already knew what she had done and - amazingly - she had done it before.  So, I felt completely justified in leaving as they obviously did not have the courage to tackle such a critical professionalism issue inside their organisation.

In the second case, I later found out that all concerned had lost their jobs within the ensuing 18 months because the organisation realised that it had to get its house in order.  So, I was justified in not putting up with the treatment I had received. 

Talk about live and learn!

Can you cope with surprises?

I must confess that I’ve never been too fond of February.  And I don’t think I’m alone.  It usually feels like the world is in waiting, with the weather and the news also conspiring to make us feel a bit low.  I’m told that 31st January is the peak day for people to hand in their notice so that also turns February into limbo-time if you’re waiting for that bright new start. 

However, this year has taken me by surprise.  I’m not in limbo, I’m frantically busy and it will probably be mid-March before I have time to blink.  Yesterday I had to apologise to a potential new client that I could not accommodate the date he wanted in my diary.  That’s a disappointment.

I’m sure you know I’m not going to be moaning about being in this happy position.  I had an inkling back in the autumn when a few things were being pre-booked but the extent of the additional work has taken me a bit by surprise – a very good surprise, of course. The result of all this is that I am relying on meticulous planning, self-discipline and organisation to make everything fit.  More about that in a future blog.

So, let me ask a question.  Have you ever thought about how you cope with surprises at work and at home – and let’s not forget that they can be good news or ones that make us not quite so happy.  What makes you able to cope with anything that is thrown at you with grace and without coming apart at the seams (well not in public at least)?

There are a range of professionalism attitudes and qualities which come into play to help you: self-confidence, politeness, adaptability, professional maturity, responsiveness, responsibility, to name but a few.  Time and experience can help us to acquire and implement these qualities but there are a great many which combine to ensure that we exhibit professionalism in every situation. 

So, what if you are in the early stages of your career or have reached some sort of career decision point and need a guide or road map to help you move in the right direction?  That might be a cue to think about the very definite benefits of finding a mentor who can be there to listen to your questions and to support you in working out the next best step.  

And sometimes we need shortcuts to absorb the right knowledge at exactly the right moment.  So, because I can’t think of anything more important for anyone in the workplace, I’d like to help you to identify and utilise every quality you need to implement your workplace professionalism and ensure that those surprises don’t make your life difficult.  Just click through and use this special code - TREATU2017 to get an 80% discount on the online course, the ABC of Professionalism.  I’m here to help if you get stuck or want to talk things through. 

And as for February, perhaps I should begin to expect more not less happy surprises in the future – time will tell!


OMG! Why didn't you tell me?

Here’s an awkward question for you.

How does your organisation react to known issues which recur on a regular basis? Not an easy question to answer, is it?  So, just to be really difficult, here are a couple more for you to consider:

How long does it take to acknowledge that there is a problem?

How long does it take to decide to deal with it?

Does your organisation prefer to do nothing and hope it will go away?

Do you have a quick look and decide the ‘fix’ is too difficult or too expensive?

Or do you take the time to really understand what is happening, why it is occurring and have a robust conversation about how to deal with it and, more importantly, prevent it happening again?

We’d all like to think that the last option is the one we would choose but a great many organisations put up with the discomfort because they believe it is either going to be too hard or too messy.  

In one of the places I worked when I was newly married there was a fairly unremarkable office chair.  Not particularly comfortable, not particularly smart or tatty.  It was OK for my day’s work.  But it had a reputation and new occupants never learned about a so-called ‘jinx’ until a particular event occurred.  No-one was ever given a heads-up or advance warning, people just watched and waited.  And that, as you will see, was a little unfair.

Some months later I was settled into a really enjoyable role and making it my own, enhancing services and innovating as I went.  Then I discovered that I was pregnant.  Not surprising you might say for a young married woman.  However, it wasn’t exactly in the plan at that point so I wasn’t looking forward to explaining the situation to my boss.  His response absolutely astounded me.  Don’t worry about it, he said with a smile, the last four people who have used that chair have all become pregnant.  And everyone else in the department started chuckling and saying they wondered how long it would take for the chair to do its work.  Excuse me???

Leaving aside the amusement value for my work fellows, with hindsight my story raises an important question about what organisations know collectively and how much is passed on as accepted behaviour during induction processes.  My visits to a wide variety of organisations these days seem to indicate that ‘known issues’ are often tolerated for quite long periods – even the old wives’ tales.

Now the most important aspects of any induction process are to tell people what to expect and how to behave when working for your organisation. Keeping secrets from them is not, therefore, going to do anyone any favours.  You might say that folklore isn’t covered by a formal induction process and that may be so but unless and until a new employee understands the organisation’s culture and ways of working, they are going to find it hard to fit in and/or do their job effectively.

From the organisation’s side, it makes sense to aim to prevent losing staff for foreseeable reasons.  After all, you have to invest in bringing them up to speed until such time as they become useful parts of the team. It also makes absolute sense to ensure that there is consistency in inductions for all levels of staff – give or take the context and content of the role. 

What other things are foreseeable if they happen time and again? 

Perhaps knowing that the work relations in a particular department continue to be poor.  This can cause real headaches.  But there is always more than one way to tackle something of this nature.  There may be a single cause or perhaps the staff are uncomfortable because of the dynamics between the team members or because the personality or work traits of the person in charge of the department leave something to be desired.

Or are you receiving lots of complaints relating to a particular activity or service you provide?  Have you taken a long hard look at the process from the consumer end, how are they being treated, how long are they waiting, are you communicating well enough, is the final product worth waiting for?

If you know you have a problem in a particular area, why wouldn’t you expend some energy to fix it or change something which will eliminate the issue, i.e. get rid of the ‘jinxed’ chair? 

Not all organisations are good at being so objective.

This is where a fresh and unbiased pair of eyes can help.  Asking someone who doesn’t know the organisation’s history can be a distinct advantage by being totally objective.

It can be awkward to face up to problems which have been around for a while.  So if you would like to discuss any of these ideas further or need assistance with finding a way forward, then do contact me.  It’s probably not going to be as difficult as you think.

I wish I was a little egg ....

Way back in the Dark Ages (top years of primary school actually) I had a wonderful English teacher.  Her name was Mrs Howse and her lessons were a joy.  She had a way of making her point by making us laugh and sharing her wonder at the way language could help us understand different and often deeper concepts.  Obviously, I didn’t get that back then but I do so appreciate it now.  I have loved this magical little ditty ever since she taught it to us:

‘I wish I was a little egg

Way up in a tree

Sitting in my little nest

As rotten as could be.

I wish that you would come along

And stand beneath that tree

And I would up and burst myself

And cover thee with me.’

-          Anon

She used to recite the last couple of lines with absolute relish and we would howl with laughter every time so it really stuck.  Somehow in the middle of all this she would convey the truth – that we can’t always do what we would really like to do because it might have repercussions for us personally, however good it felt at the time.  She was a very wise woman.

There have been times in the last year when I have been forcibly reminded of this poem and its associated life lesson.  So, I offer it here in the hope that it will raise a smile and you find it useful as you go through your working day and then find yourself able to laugh at the provocations, not fall into the reaction trap.

In terms of professionalism or personal integrity, it’s hard to express that doing what you want to do at any moment has consequences, whether you have cause to react or not.  Every personal decision has repercussions and, if we react to provocation in a way that diminishes us, then we are forever changed – and not for the better.  If we make bad or wrong decisions, they can diminish us personally and in the eyes of those around us. So, when the provocation strikes – and it inevitably will – the best route is to try to take a deep breath and pause or count to 5 or whatever you do to give yourself that essential moment to think clearly about your next action.  You won’t regret it.  I still shudder when I think back to an incident many years ago, when I reacted angrily to extreme provocation in the workplace and I regret it to this day.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Over the years, I have searched in vain for the poem's author but have been unable to find one. Perhaps Mrs Howse wrote it herself or maybe you know differently.  If so, I'd love to hear from you. 

Ask them ‘Why?’

A recurring theme in organisations I’ve been working with lately is how to deal with the challenges posed in keeping board members on track and on message.

Try this illuminating exercise.  Take a minute to mentally review all your current and previous board members.  Can you identify one particular characteristic that they might share, the one common denominator which brought them onto your board in the first place?  I’d be willing to bet that in the majority of cases it will be their passion for their profession, their cause or for your organisation in representing that one thing that is so important to them. 

So, they choose to become involved in the hope of doing some good or, perhaps, encouraging what they see as necessary changes.  Once they are embarked as working board members, the challenge for any organisation is to maintain that passion and to channel it for everyone’s benefit.

Unfortunately, the reasons they got involved in the first place can, over time, be heavily outweighed by the demands of the role if the extent of their responsibilities or the expected commitment becomes blurred in some way.  That blurring can take many forms but frequent examples include:

·         Lack of clarity in what precisely they are being asked to contribute

·         Lack of clarity in their precise role and responsibilities

·         No exact definition of how much time they are being asked to contribute

·         Lack of clarity in where authority for any and all decisions is held

·         Regularly asking board members to carry out operational tasks or roles because staff resource is too low.

These excessive or unclear demands on board member time and personal resource, coupled with fuzzy expectations, can leave them uneasy or unsure of what they should actually be doing.  This can, of course, lead to misconceptions and miscommunications and, at worst, a view that someone is interfering inappropriately.  Just to offer a word of caution – ‘negative passion’ can be expressed in destructive ways. If an individual feels stymied or frustrated then the results can be unpredictable but are often the exact opposite of what you really want to be happening.

So do you believe that your board still has balance or have things become skewed in some way?  It can be a very uneasy feeling if you believe that you are not getting the best out of your board.  So here is something simple for you to try, either next time your board meets or perhaps as an offsite exercise.

Ask them why they remain on the board and why they are still happy to offer their time and commitment.

This might also be a good time to remind them about their official role and responsibilities and ensure that they have sufficient training to deliver against expectations - from both your and their perspectives. 

These exercises can provide some interesting daylight moments. Finding someone who is involved for unexpected reasons could explain any difficult ‘politics’ that the board might be experiencing; or why a particular individual never turns up or doesn’t read board papers in advance of meetings. If this clarity doesn’t provide sufficient impetus for improvement then you might consider performance reviews – but that’s for another day.

Either way, you will have a great opportunity to express how extremely grateful you are for their continuing contribution.   A little appreciation goes a long way.

If you would like to discuss any of these ideas further or need assistance with implementation, then do contact me.  I’d love to help.

New ways to spot old problems (or what a baguette tells us about professionalism)

Some people think professionalism is a very obscure subject.  What does it mean, why is it relevant, how can it help my career?

By far the best way to understand its value and meaning is to take a look at how people behave in a variety of circumstances, both at work and in their personal lives, and to reflect on whether their behaviours lead us to make some assumptions about them.  Are they people you would trust, would they be likely to complete work on time, would they consider others' feelings in a difficult situation?

Consider the following real-life scenario;

Two colleagues decide to take their lunch break together after working together all morning.  Following a swift discussion about the dismal weather they decide to go to the local coffee shop as it is quite close by.  One guy buys a filled baguette but no drink while the other has coffee and a sandwich.  They sit facing each other at a table with four seats.  Baguette guy wolfs his lunch down in a very few bites while the other guy takes his time with his sandwich and leisurely waits for his coffee to cool down.  Not a word has been exchanged.  As soon as he has finished eating, baguette guy gets out his iPhone and proceeds to work on his messages without looking up or interrupting himself or acknowledging the other guy's presence in any way.  15 minutes go by.  Coffee guy is now looking around and indulging in a spot of people watching as if sitting at the table on his own.  When he finishes his lunch he also gets out his phone, glances at it briefly and puts it away.  They leave together, discussing work issues.

What do you make of this scene?  If they were colleagues of yours or you were their boss then what conclusions might you draw about the behaviour of each and what, if anything, might you be tempted to do as a result of what you have seen?

Case studies and stories from real-life give us some eye-opening information to work with as a means to unpack the huge variety of characteristics and attitudes which combine in each and every one of us.  Are you displaying as many professionalism characteristics as you think you are? 

Would your organisation benefit from discussing these important areas together?  

Give me a call if you want to talk about your conclusions from the scenario above or any other professionalism issue, I'd love to hear from you.